Be Do Have Diagram (Original Alistair Lobo version)

As I explain in my introduction, this Be Do Have model is such an intuitive, natural concept that it helped me shape my life, even though I only formally learned about it in the past year.

Since publishing the book, however, I have realised that both this diagram and my supporting description are inadequate. Both make the elements appear sequential, with each step forming a precedent that determines the quality of the next. This is only partly true, because, as I have since realised, they are actually a behaviour continuum where each has an ongoing effect on the others. Therefore the concept can and should be more realistically portrayed as follows:

Be Do Have Diagram (Revised Bay Jordan Version)

The distinction is important because it reinforces the progressive nature of life and helps illustrate why the outcomes we are currently experiencing are undermining our individual and collective sense of self-worth, and thus why we need to change. It is effectively a wider interpretation of Helen Douglas’ observation, “Character isn’t inherited. One builds it daily by the way one thinks and acts, thought by thought, action by action.” If we want a more stable, secure world, we have to go back to the highest concepts of who we are, in order to reverse the current outcomes that are moving us in the opposite direction and endangering the human race and the whole planet.